It was to my surprise after my sister was born that she can not yet play with me and understands me. All she was capable of doing was eating sleeping and perform her biological needs for the first 2 years of her life. When she finally understood my intentions and definition of the words “fun” and “play”. She was old news, I was bored of her but unlike a toy I couldn’t just put her up for sale. Susan Scarf Merrell once said our brothers and sisters are there with us from the dawn of our personal stories to the inevitable dusk.
My family and I used to live in Los Angeles in a small home I used to share a room with my sister. I remember hating her and I would commit acts of unfairness out of jealousy and anger and irritation. But even then when I thought it was a void for me she was bonding with me. I used to be scared to take showers by myself, so shed sit in the bathroom assuring me the monsters could not get to me. Gradually I began realizing that she had more to offer than just what I believed to be nothing. And it was never that my sister and I hated each other. It was that I didn’t understand. We were not compatible age wise, and we never would be. But gradually it hit me that we didn’t need to be she would never be my best friend from school I would never share notes in class with her, or have sleepovers with or share rumors and secrets with her. Nope, but better yet she could and would be my best friend everywhere. We would never have the opportunity to share a class (lucky for the teacher); we’d be the most disruptive bundle. We wouldn’t need sleepover’s we live under the same roof but if she ever had a nightmare she was welcome to sleep with me. Furthermore I would never share secrets with my sister because there would not be anything that I knew that she would not. Now we live in Palmdale were we each have our own rooms, ironically they’re not necessary anymore. My sister has taught be about myself and just like the movie...She is my keeper.
Ashley!
ReplyDeleteYour post makes me want a sister even more than I already do. I agree with you, you wont always get along with your sibilings especially if they are younger. Like you said it's hard for us to understand that they wont have the same idea of what fun is for you. In your post i was really able to see your personality and how much your sister means to you. The emotions you show were great. I really love your post i can relate to it, the only difference is I have a brother. Great job
-Alejandra Gonzalez
Ashley, your quote and your story was very heartwarming. I never had the whole sister experience with my sister because she is way older than I am. Your personal experience in comparison to this quote tugged at my heart strings. It was beautifully descriptive and it is try that your siblings, or relatives that are close to your age, are your best friends everywhere you go. It's not like school where you have a new best friend with every grade you move up.Family is the one thing everyone is lucky enough to have and it's what makes us who we are. I mean who knows me better than my own family?
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